Relationship Patterns Test

Do you relate from security or from fear?

Relationship patterns are the recurring dynamics that shape your bonds: the position you take in power dynamics, how you balance dependency and autonomy, how you respond to conflict, and the kinds of connections you tend to create. These patterns can repeat across relationships until you begin to recognize them.

Understanding your relationship patterns allows you to stop asking "why does the same thing always happen to me?" and start seeing what pattern you are reproducing and how to change it.

What does this test measure?

• Your usual position in power dynamics (dominant, adapted, symmetrical).
• Your level of emotional dependency vs. relational autonomy.
• Your conflict management style (confrontation, avoidance, negotiation).
• If you tend to occupy any of the roles in the drama triangle (Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer).

How it shows up in everyday life

Your relationship pattern isn't visible in one isolated argument — it's visible in the pattern that repeats across different arguments, with different people:

• Giving in during a negotiation not because you agree, but to keep the other person from being upset with you.
• Noticing you always end up "rescuing" the same kind of person in your relationships, even when no one asked you to.
• Feeling like you've lost the moment someone disagrees with you, as if disagreement were automatically a threat to the relationship.
• Needing to have the final word in every family or relationship decision, even on things you genuinely don't care about.

These patterns aren't character flaws: they're the way you learned, in your earliest bonds, that it was safe — or necessary — to relate to others. That's why willpower alone rarely changes them; you first need to see them clearly, then practice a different response at the exact moment the pattern activates, not after the fact.

Who is it for?

For anyone who notices that their relationships — romantic, family, or work — follow a similar script even as the people involved change. Especially useful if you find you always end up giving in, always end up in charge, or always end up in the same kind of conflict without quite understanding why.

What will you get?

A map of your dominant relational dynamics, what position you tend to occupy, and what changes could help you relate with more equality and satisfaction. In the PRO report, Block E is analysed alongside Attachment Style (Block B) and sub-block E1 (Communication Style) to complete your relationship patterns.